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Anarchy – Are We There Yet?

I woke up one morning, I looked around, and I realized, the country I live in is experiencing anarchy.  Now, that’s one big accusation to make against your homeland.  It’s something, one would say, that should be done very carefully, very seriously, and has to be backed with hard evidence.  I agree.  I thought about it long and hard, and I realized that I was witnessing certain kinds of behaviors that I am not accustomed to see, and that these behaviors may suggest signs of anarchy.

Humans usually live within a social structure that represents families, communities, towns, cities, and other collections of people.  In a family or larger communities, behaviors usually represent care that is beyond the care for an individual on his or her own.  Complete strangers are still courteous, provide help, and manifest almost altruistic behaviors.  It is when social structure breaks down, that one can observe behaviors that show concern for the individual only, or to his or her immediate family and circle of friends.  My observation is that Israel is experiencing these changes in behaviors.

I always thought that a certain level of trust must exist between complete strangers, otherwise life as we know it cannot be sustained.  For example, obeying traffic lights is almost a necessity in order for life to continue.  A driver must have the confidence to cross an intersection when the traffic light is green, trusting (blindly) that his or her fellow drivers will stop at the red light presented on the other side of the intersection.  If the drivers didn’t have this confidence or trust, they will simply stop at the intersection regardless of the color of the light.  Same with stop signs.  Pedestrians must trust drivers to obey the traffic lights.  The hidden assumptions by pedestrians is that drivers will never start driving for as long as the traffic light is red.  (I must add here that pedestrians are still required to make sure the road is safe to cross even when the lights are still red for the incoming traffic).  People inherently accept standing in line.  When we stop accepting lines, the strong will make it, the weak, old and very young will be stepped on and left for dead.

Up front let me state that I wish that the outcome of this exercise would have been that I was wrong.  That it is only an observation based on little evidence, one personal experience, the media.  I wish that my conclusion would be that I am proud and happy to carry the Israeli passport, pay the taxes, serve in the military.  I wish that the outcome would suggest that against all odds, Jews were able to create in the middle east, something that nobody was able to create elsewhere.  A state, respectful of its citizens, serving them day and night, with no discrimination, corruption.  With full equality and representation.  I really wish to be a proud Israeli.

Almost every Saturday, my family and I wake up early to the high pitched sound of a buckeye engine.  A buckeye is a large parachute, connected to a fan driven by a gasoline based engine.  Flying a buckeye is a respected recreational activity.  I respect recreational activity as mush as the next guy.  What I don’t respect is people flying over residential areas, at low altitude, endangering the communities and of course waking them up on their day off.  Why is this associated with anarchy?  Because it shows that the pilot is thinking of one thing only: his own R&R (relaxation and recreation).  What he completely ignores is the safety and well being of the people living below his flight path.  Individuals do that occasionally, they ignore the laws.  But the police or other authorities (like the Civil Aviation Administration) sometimes show up and make them take responsibility for ignoring the law.  Obviously, flying a buckeye is an activity which is difficult to hide.  But when the police and the CAA are absent, and there’s no fear of the law – this is where anarchy lurks.  Anarchy.

Unfortunately for me, I spend a lot of time on the road.  The way people drive in Israel suggests two things: one that they don’t respect anything except their own time (rushing somewhere is a good enough reason to speed and ignore traffic rules and instructions), and second, that they don’t give a rat’s ass about the police.  Speeding, car accidents, hit and runs, injured and dead, are a daily issue here.  I assume it’s everywhere, but here it’s obvious disrespect.  Anarchy.

This one has been true for years.  If one’s car has been stolen, or one’s house burglarized, chances are that the possessions will never be recovered.  The police has only one job in this equation: to issue a police report so one can claim the loss from the insurance company.  Anarchy.

On occasion, a driver would need to make a bio break.  Face it, sometimes one has to go.  In the past, drivers would park the car on the shoulder, then walk away behind a tree or something to relieve themselves.  I started to notice that drivers pull over and go right there and then, next to their cars.  Shame disappeared.  Anarchy.

Criminals shoot each other on the street causing “collateral damage” to innocent bystanders.  Anarchy.

ATVs (All Terrain Vehicles) driving in a group in the middle of the highway, speeding in residential areas, with no respect to other drivers, pedestrians or traffic laws and rules, endangering themselves and the other users of the road.  Anarchy.

I must add that the government also makes sure that Israelis feel that they have been deserted.  The government is not keeping the very basic contract between a citizen and the authorities.  Education, clean air, water, security and safety, equality before the law.  Anarchy.

Let me give an example, which involves the revealing of some very confidential information.  Please keep it to yourself.  Israel is located in the Middle East.  Top secret number one.  Israel, small as it is, has shores in two oceans (the Mediterranean on the west, and the Red Sea on the south).  This secret involves national security, so please don’t tell.  Large parts of Israel are desert.  I know I can get in trouble for revealing this one.  Lastly, Israel has experienced a drought in the last five or six years.  Israel has been around for over sixty years, and so has the technology of water desalination.  You would think that in 2009, the government in Israel would have had a dozen desalination plants.  You would think that a state, claiming to belong to the First World, would have some technological advances like say its neighbors: Jordan, Saudi Arabia and Qatar all are big in water desalination.  Well, it has only two (I think).  Their capacity is much larger than what the government lets them provide.  Why?  Because the Israeli government has come to the decision that it is more effective to tax water, while risking the drying of the only fresh water lake in Israel – the Sea of Galilee.  Anarchy.

The education system is ridiculous, citizens of Israel are required to either teach their own children or pay someone else to do it for them.  Israel, by the way, is proud of its free, open for all, education system.  However, education in the periphery is not even close to education in the big city.  Education for minorities is almost non existent.  Accomplishments of Israeli students are getting lower and lower.  Violence in the schools is rising.  Soon enough we’ll have a literacy problem.  Children have no education, no respect.  All they have is brand names, TV games and third rate celebrities.  Anarchy.

Ultra religious people are trashing the city of Jerusalem on a daily basis, throwing stones at the Mayor, demanding that a lady of their own, indicted for child abuse (denying food from a three years old child, inserting unidentified substances into his feeding tube) is released immediately.  Demonstrating violently every Saturday because a parking lot was opened in the Old City of Jerusalem.  No arrests (or very little) are made.  Anarchy.

New soldiers, reporting to some battalion, were greeted with an acceptance ritual which included physical and mental abuse.  Commanders and officers were sentenced to jail terms.  The parents of the sentenced soldiers complained that their children were unfairly charged, as the rituals were traditional.  Anarchy.

Recently, a Scout Leader course took place up north.  As it turns out, the “children” took part in some “mischief”.  This “mischief” included rape, forced sodomy, smearing feces on one another, and other interesting activities.  Management of the Scouts tried at first to deny the whole thing.  Anarchy.

It gets better actually.  Settlers, residents of the West Bank, challenge the police and the armed forces on a daily basis.  True to their names, they settle.  Everywhere.  A few families, a couple of motor homes, a tent for religious ceremonies, and a settlement is placed overnight.  Literally, overnight.  Then it takes months of legal litigation, evacuation attempts, more evacuation attempts.  Success, and then more attempts.  Civil resistance is somewhat acceptable to me.  But not when the consensus is elsewhere.  What’s interesting is that the police and the armed forces suffer the abuse, but very little arrests and indictments come out of this challenge.  Palestinian also suffer from these activities.  Their fields become inaccessible, the tress uprooted.  They, unlike the settlers, have to fend for themselves.  Anarchy.

The political system is broken, the administration at least feels as if it is corrupted to the bone.  Indictments against a former Prime Minister, quite a few former ministers, current ministers and many other government officials are ongoing.  The feeling is that the country is slipping away into the claws of disorder, unlawfulness, anarchy, and corruption.  The amazing thing is that most Israelis will tell you that security, terrorism, Arabs (inside and outside Israel), are the real problem.  I state clearly: if Israel continues on this path, a comprehensive peace in the Middle East will be a walk in the park.  Israel will disappear and the Palestinian will inherit the land.  If only they were patient enough to let it happen.

The Mother-In-Law Seat

Self explanatory.  No offense to my own mother-in-law…

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Open Letter to Geeks

Do you feel the nasty looks when you get your midterm test back?  Do you find that you peers are disturbed by your consistent A+ scores?  Do you feel rejected by the “cool” guys when the instructor or teacher or professor mentions your name as exemplary student?  Do you get cold shoulders from girls who prefer the masculine, tall, good looking athletes, who indeed can’t spell their own names, but boy, can they jump, hit, run, swim and throw?  Do you feel that your drive for excellence, your achievements and accomplishments, your preference of math and sciences over ball games is an obstacle to an outstanding social life?  Are you a nerd?  A geek?  A “techie”?

You are not alone.  You are in good company.  And while being an odd looking, strange acting teenager, dreaming of the prom queen, you might actually be surprised to know, that in die time, the prom queen will be after you.  Yes, it’s true.  She will pay no attention to the motorcycle driving, long haired, tattooed, cool looking guys with the low grades.  She will hunt you down, get you settled and make children with you.  Why, you ask?  Evolution, I say young man, evolution.

Women, (actually females in general) choose a mate based on their ability to provide for the expected offspring.  The reason is simple.  Carrying a baby, taking care of it during childhood, (lets face it, we rear our children to the day we die), is a very resource intensive task.  Other species are different.  Females are expecting almost nothing from males except good genes.  But in few species, humans included, males are expected to provide more than good genes (although that is still expected), males are expected to provide.  On a side note, this is not to say that women are not completely capable to provide for their own offspring.  They can, of course.  However, a partnership in bringing up children, is still better.  In all those species expecting makes to stick around and pay their share in upbringing offspring, females select males based on their good genes, but also based on their proven ability or potential to provide.

So nature works this way.  When young, careless, and uncommitted, human females choose the good looking, masculine, tall guys.  But when time comes to settle down, the criteria changes completely.  A female must employ certain techniques to carefully select the “one” who can provide best for her and her offspring.  Now lets try to think, what can possibly be a better predictor for future income than education?  Of course, selecting the heir of some old money, or dating a mobster may do as well, only the former are rare, and the latter involve certain life style issues…  But in all honesty, education is a pretty good indicator of a person’s income or potential of income.

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Researches on this topic are numerous, and most agree on the conclusions.  Here’s an excerpt from an example paper: “Buss (1987, 1994) developed a number of evolutionary hypotheses concerning sex differences in mate selection criteria in humans. Since the number of offspring a Homo sapiens female can produce is limited, evolution would favor those who are able to secure sufficient resources for upbringing her offspring. Therefore, part of the female reproductive strategy is to secure mates that are able and willing to provide necessary resources. Hence, Buss (1987) concludes, female mate choice criteria should include signs indicating control or potential control over necessary resources, and related personality traits – ambition, dominance, diligence.”  More.

So if you are a teenager with a social acceptance problem but excellent grades, if you feel lonely or unwanted, rest assured that your investment is well placed.  In the long run, your patience will pay off.  Your higher than average income, may be accompanied with a good choice of partner…

Religions Beliefs and Atheism

I’m a nonaffiliated atheist.  Everyone who knows me knows that I don’t believe in the existence of a divine being,  or the supernatural.  I do not believe in creationism, in fact I never accept abracadabra as an answer to anything.  Furthermore, if I had to choose between a simplistic answer, a silly answer and no answer at all, I would undoubtedly choose the latter.  My reasoning is that one hundred years ago, people had many more questions.  In one hundred years from now, people will have less questions than we do today, or at least the variety of questions they will have in the future would be somewhat different, as some mysteries would have been resolved then.  It always has been true, and it always will.  The conclusion is simple: today’s mystery is tomorrow’s discovery.  Today’s religion is tomorrow’s science.  I can wait.  In any case, even if I did believe in some super duper being, there’s no way any God would just sit there watching His or Her followers making such a petty, jealous, vindictive being out of Him or Her.

As I was reading Richard Dawkins’ “The God Delusion” I took notes.  The book spells out many thoughts that crossed my mind over the years, but I couldn’t put down in words.  I know it’s inappropriate to use this figure of speech in this context, yet I can’t resist.  If I believed in God, I would have said: “God bless Richard Dawkins”.  As I don’t believe in God, I would resort to “Live Long and Prosper”, as our brethren the Vulcan say…

As a scientist, I believe in anything that the evidence supports.  Once one shred of evidence to the contrary shows up, I stop believing in a blink of an eye.  I believe that evolution is the correct way to explain our presence here, and the presence of many other species.  It is clear, easy to accept, and the amount of evidence to support it is vast.  The alternative has much bigger questions.  God is only one of them: who made God?  Must have been a greater God, and so forth ad nausea.  If anything, a superb being such as God will probably arrive at the end of the evolution rather than at its beginning…

So how did it happen to us?  There must be some benefit in religion, otherwise, natural selection would have gotten rid of it.  Then again, natural selection works really slowly, the homo sapiens has only been here for a short time, and religion showed up merely three thousand years ago, so there’s still a chance.  Dawkins provides a beautiful explanation for how religion keeps going.  Dawkins suggests that there’s certainly a great benefit in listening to the elders.  Listening and obeying without questioning.  The reason is simple: it may save a child’s life.  “Beware of that tiger/snake/enemy”, is a statement nobody should ignore.  What if during childhood, statements like this one are peppered with others like: “pray three or five times a day”, “don’t shave”, “sacrifice a goat”?  Children don’t have good ways to distinguish the life saving advise from the bull.  So on one hand children are encouraged to not question directives, on the other they are given some really strange instructions born in the mind of some lunatic, who accepts it as a superior way of life.  I am proud to be a broken link.  I was brought up religious, but my children, at least the ones who live with me, are trained to be open minded, inquisitive, and curious.

Often, too often, people suggest that religion is associated with doing good.  And that without religion, people will really be and do bad.  Bull.  Common sense is a much better and consistent teacher when it comes to doing good.  If one only accepts one rule: “That which is hateful to you do not do to your friend.”  Think about it: one doesn’t want to be murdered, stolen from, spouse taken away.  Well, don’t do it to others.  Religion, however, suggests that “Him, who is different from us, shall be killed in many strange and creative ways”.  Stoned, bombed, buried alive, burned, drowned, and who knows how many other ways…  Common sense or religion, I choose common sense over religion every day of the week, except Sabbath.  Just kidding…

But what I really despise about religion is that there’s no argument.  “I’m right and that’s the end of it”.  The bible, taken literally, is hardly acceptable to many extremely religious people there days.  Allegory, they suggest.  But these are the smart, educated people.  Many still believe in Adam and Eve, that the world has been created, in seven days, less than six thousand years ago.  They believe that Abraham actually almost sacrificed his only son, that the Hebrews built the pyramids, and had the sea opened up for them as they were leaving Egypt to accept the Torah at Mount Sinai.  Others  believe that a certain girl gave birth to God with no interference of a male, yet they claim that the same person is Messiah based on his life line through his father, who wasn’t even involved.  The amount of bizarre beliefs on the planet may in fact supersede the amount of species that had lived on it in the past, the present and future combined.  Amazingly, all believers think that Their God is the only one, that Their customs are genuine, and They and only They will experience salvation.

As for me, I couldn’t be more different.  I doubt everything.  Indeed, my life is more challenging, but I’m happy with it.  Again, if I had to pick the open question or the silly answer, I will go with the open question.

Closing Circles by Paulo Coelho

I did not write the following, but I could have.  Somehow, it is easier to read it when someone else experiences a loss.  I do recommend for everyone to read it though, as nobody knows when such a comforting passage will be in need.

One always has to know when a stage comes to an end. If we insist on staying longer than the necessary time, we lose the happiness and the meaning of the other stages we have to go through. Closing cycles, shutting doors, ending chapters – whatever name we give it, what matters is to leave in the past the moments of life that have finished.

Did you lose your job? Has a loving relationship come to an end? Did you leave your parents’ house? Gone to live abroad? Has a long-lasting friendship ended all of a sudden? You can spend a long time wondering why this has happened. You can tell yourself you won’t take another step until you find out why certain things that were so important and so solid in your life have turned into dust, just like that. But such an attitude will be awfully stressing for everyone involved: your parents, your husband or wife, your friends, your children, your sister, everyone will be finishing chapters, turning over new leaves, getting on with life, and they will all feel bad seeing you at a standstill.

None of us can be in the present and the past at the same time, not even when we try to understand the things that happen to us. What has passed will not return: we cannot for ever be children, late adolescents, sons that feel guilt or rancor towards our parents, lovers who day and night relive an affair with someone who has gone away and has not the least intention of coming back. Things pass, and the best we can do is to let them really go away.

That is why it is so important (however painful it may be!) to destroy souvenirs, move, give lots of things away to orphanages, sell or donate the books you have at home. Everything in this visible world is a manifestation of the invisible world, of what is going on in our hearts – and getting rid of certain memories also means making some room for other memories to take their place. Let things go. Release them. Detach yourself from them. Nobody plays this life with marked cards, so sometimes we win and sometimes we lose. Do not expect anything in return, do not expect your efforts to be appreciated, your genius to be discovered, your love to be understood. Stop turning on your emotional television to watch the same program over and over again, the one that shows how much you suffered from a certain loss: that is only poisoning you, nothing else.

Nothing is more dangerous than not accepting love relationships that are broken off, work that is promised but there is no starting date, decisions that are always put off waiting for the “ideal moment.” Before a new chapter is begun, the old one has to be finished: tell yourself that what has passed will never come back. Remember that there was a time when you could live without that thing or that person – nothing is irreplaceable, a habit is not a need. This may sound so obvious, it may even be difficult, but it is very important.

Closing cycles. Not because of pride, incapacity or arrogance, but simply because that no longer fits your life.

Shut the door, change the record, clean the house, shake off the dust.

Stop being who you were, and change into who you are.